Working through Fear on the road to change

An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life… 

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

“One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.

“The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

“This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather,
“Which wolf will win?”

The old chief simply replied,
“The one you feed.”

My wife Tara and I were discussing the other day that for both of us we’ve gone through major life transitions approximately every ten years of our lives. In the twenty years we’ve been together our first ten years we spent living in Japan. The last ten years we’ve been home in Australia, started a family, mortgage, new careers and built a business together. Now the wheel of life is turning again and another major life transition is underway.

They say “be careful for what what you wish for” and the truth of that saying is very apparent for me right now as the vision of a new life is now manifesting.


Over the last couple of years my wife, daughter and I have outgrown our home and have really started to feel the pull to live closer to nature. It’s also time for us to simplify things by bringing our home and business together under the one roof.

So whilst on the one hand there is cautious optimism and excitement about moving and starting a new life, if I’m perfectly honest this change is also being forced to some extent as business conditions have become increasingly difficult to maintain things as they had been. Coming to terms with all of this has led to lots of soul searching this year where we’ve often found ourselves wrestling with the question of what has been the primary reason for bringing us to this fork in the road?

Some days I consider that its largely due to shortcomings, but then on my better days I like to believe that somehow it’s the universe holding our hands and guiding us closer to what our hearts truly desire.

I suspect all of us though from time to time, in our own way ask ourselves the same sort of question.

Feeding the Good Wolf  

Letting go is the opposite of fearing death,  it is trusting life. When we let go of something, our hand opens and we are able to receive. Rolf Gates 

My bad wolf often cloaks itself in self doubt and fear. In several of my previous writings I’ve spoken of the importance of maintaining a daily life affirming practice to keep joy front and central in our lives. These writings of course also serve as a reminder to myself to stay engaged with what feeds my good wolf.

One of the things that most brings me solace and inspiration in life is reading. Recently whilst packing up our bookshelf ahead of our move, I came across a book “Creative Visualization” by Shakti Gawain. I’m not sure how or why I had it because whilst the idea of positive thinking and affirmations has always seemed perfectly reasonable to me,  I’ve never invested much in it. I’ve always reverted to type, believing that I just need to work harder. As I’ve often found with books though, this particular book “found me” when I was ready to truly hear it’s message.

The book contain many pearls of wisdom, however there was one particular thing Shakti Gawain wrote that struck a cord for me. “Fear (ignorance) is like a shadow, it has no real substance of its own, it is simply a lack of light. In order to cause a shadow to disappear, you must shine light on it”.

It starts with being willing to believe, and willing to accept that the universe is abundant. A common cause of many of our struggles is “scarcity programming” (i.e “life is hard”, “it’s more noble and spiritual to not be materially rich” etc), so that  these “stories” we believe often then have the consequence of having you  end up in situations which prove them right. If the truth of that last statement resonates, then shouldn’t it be equally true that investing into creating positive stories will manifest in positive outcomes?

Baron Baptise starts his “Being of Power – The 9 Practices to Ignite an Empowered Life” from the orientation of “being a yes”. In other words by engaging life always from the perspective of being open to possibility you set the platform for all the other practices to take hold. From here you set yourself on a path where radical transformation can occur, and the good wolf stays beside you, whispering in your ear when you need reminding, that nothing has any meaning except the one you give to it.

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Aaron Travers is the author of  The Boda Fast  a three step plan to lower inflammation, maximise fat burning and restore vitality”. Aaron writes at and shares his ideas and experiences on health and wellbeing from his personal life and through working with clients clinically and those doing his “supported fasting” / intermittent fasting diet programs. Every Friday he sends out his newsletter, click below to subscribe. 

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2 Responses to “Working through Fear on the road to change”

  1. Maria August 1, 2014 at 10:04 am #

    Great post, Aaron. For what it’s worth, and as you probably know, you and Tara are not alone! Mx

  2. Christiane LeCornu August 1, 2014 at 8:41 pm #

    Hi Aaron,
    There comes a time when we know that we have outgrown the space we live in. This provides us with a strong push to change and investigate other ways. You and Tara have reached this point now and I know that you are ready. Both of you have to expand and bring joy and fulfilment into your lives. And Pearl will strongly benefit from this new life. Go for it, embrace it. With much love. Christiane

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